This is basically
going to be a venting post. Lately I have been annoyed of many of my friends.
If anyone knows me then they know I am the most laidback person and get along
with regularly everyone. I have gotten close to three girls on my floor; one
being my roommate, and two other girls who live right next door to me. The two
girls next door were best friends in high school so they were already good
friends. Recently those two have been fighting nonstop and it is getting really
old. They both complain about each other to me and frankly I do not get why
they don’t just talk it out with each other. Why do girls think it’s necessary
to bitch about each other to other people but not confront the person
themselves? I understand why they both are getting annoyed..one leaves her plates
and bowls everywhere and doesn’t clean up. Then the other is such a sloppy
drunk and has to get babysat every time she goes out. I think one of the
problems that roommates have is not setting any ground rules for their room in
the beginning of the year. If they did that, then I believe they would not have
many of the problems they have now. Also another thing that has made me
stressed out is having a friend that goes to Heartland Community College which
is about 5 minutes away from ISU. Since I moved out of my house and she has not
yet, it is kind of hard to keep a good friendship with. She doesn’t have the
same opportunities to meet new people like I do. She has not had the dorm
living experience yet and I feel like she is getting mad at me for not seeing
her as much. It’s unfortunate, but honestly I shouldn’t have to defend myself
for developing new friendships. That is what college is for. So to wrap this
up, I just hope when people have a problem with someone, they will go directly
to them instead of complaining 24/7 about the situation. #fedup
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I think the reason why most girls have such a hard time talking to one another is because they are socially conditioned to not be confrontational or assertive. The effects of their passivity, then, are bottled up emotions and a lot of talking behind each others back. I hope they straighten it out though.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry too much about your community college friend. She might be mad now, but she will come to terms with the change in your friendship with her. I don't think you should apologize for making new friends, but maybe she could join you in some social gatherings with your new friends?